A newlywed young man was
sitting on the porch on a humid day, sipping ice tea with his Father. As
he talked about adult life, marriage, responsibilities, and obligations,
the Father thoughtfully stirred the
ice cubes in his glass and cast a clear, sober look on his Son.
forget your friends," he advised, "they will become more
important as you get older." "Regardless of how much you
love your family and the children you happen to have, you will
always need friends. Remember to go out with them occasionally (if
keep in contact with them somehow. "What strange advice!"
thought the young man? "I just entered the married world, I am an adult
and surely my wife and the family that we will start
will be everything I need to make sense of my life."
he obeyed his Father; kept in touch with his friends and annually
increased their number. Over the years, he became aware that his Father knew what he was
talking about. Inasmuch
as time and nature carry out their designs and
mysteries on a person, friends are the bulwarks of our life. After
more than 70 years of life, here is what he, we, and
you will have learned:
goes on. Children
grow up. Children
cease to be children and become independent.
to the parents, it breaks their heart but the children are separated
from the parents because they begin their own families. Jobs / careers come and go.
Illusions, desires, attraction…weakens. People can't do what they did
physically when they were young. Parents die but you move on.
forget the favors you did. The race to achieve slows. But,
true friends are always there, no matter how long or
how many miles away they are. A friend is never more distant
than the reach of a need, intervening in your favor, waiting
for you with open arms or in some way blessing your life.
When we started this
adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the incredible joys or sorrows
that were ahead. We did not know how much we would need from each
other. Love your parents, take
care of your children, but keep a group of good friends. Stay
in touch with them but do not impose your criteria.